LGBT+ barely about safety, especially when gatekeeping

So I feel like it doesn’t matter that much whether or not the aro/ace identities belong within lgbt+, or if they should by default be included. Because like honestly.. Lgbt+ barely holds any meaning. If it’s about safety.. Then I feel like cis people of any orientation should just be out.. I feel like the people that want aro/ace people out for whatever reason hasn’t really considered this.. But, as a trans person, “allies” don’t make me any more or less uncomfortable being able to access these spaces than cis people. I mean, I guess it’s nice being so sheltered that you’re able to be in trans inclusive spaces which include cis people too, and still feel safe. But in all honesty, lgbt+ has like no significance in this context for me. So, yeah, whatever, suit yourself, glad you’re able to feel safe, I guess. Lgbt+ just don’t hold meaning to me at all if aro/ace people ain’t welcome. Because it obviously ain’t about solidarity, safety, and challenging normativity, essentialism, and binaries..

There's the essential flaw with  LGBT+, though. The cis sga/mga makes LGBT+ spaces unsafe for trans people. Cis men make lgbt+ spaces unsafe for everyone else. So, I’m sorry that I don’t really care whether or not an aro/ace person is “straight”, and what sort of far fetched meaning we can all attach to the word straight. Funnily enough I can’t imagine straight trans women making any space unsafe at all.. So I genuinely don’t see how straightness is ever more emphasised than cisness..

So, uh,anyway, I don’t like the term LGBT+, it makes sense, but it seems to derail a lot.

In addition, though, even if I'm not a fan of LGBT+.. It makes completely sense for aro/ace people to be included in the lgbt+ acronym, within its own logic to exist as an acronym at all. Patriarchy is the key word here. It is why homophobia exists, why gender roles exist, why heteronormativity exists. It is very obvious that sga and mga people would fit together, they are affected in many of the same ways. In regards to the right to love, and right to commit.

Trans people do often get affected by a lot of things like that too, usually the problems even overlapping (sga or not). All thanks to how gender roles affects us, gendered expectations, thanks to our sex essentialistic society. Which is also where intersexuality ties in. A huge issue for intersex people is lack of personal medical autonomy, often experiencing various coersive medical treatments. The cause of those things? The expectations for the male and female body. If not about reproduction, it is about being able to have piv sex. Trans people do in general suffer from lack of personal autonomy. Not only this, but many people that are intersex are trans or sga, many sga people are trans or intersex, many trans people are sga or intersex, there's a lot of shared history because many of us fit into several categories, this goes for aro/ace people too, doesn't it?

Tell me, how many places here can you see aro/ace issues tying in? I can see it on equal footing with sga and trans issues tying in, tbh. This is not about historicly who has suffered most, this is about a basic logic: We’re all affected by heteronormativity, cissexism, sex essentialism, patriarchy, and how we fit in with gender roles. If you’re not consistant with lgbt+ inclusion, then there’s literally no point with using LGBT+ at all. Tying sga/mga together with trans/nb is already a tiny bit of a reach, but if it’s about how essentialistic and binary obsessed society is about our bodies, then I see no reason to exclude the aro/ace spectrums.

A large reason for why LGBT+ exists is because there's shared issues, and many of us fit into several of the categories. We all have the potentiality to fit several of the spectrums, when you accept some people from a spectrum, you should accept other people from it too. Straight trans people are welcome, cis sga/mga people are welcome, why can't aro/ace people of any gender or orientation be welcome? There are so many sga/mga and trans/nb aro/ace people, that the spectrum kind of needs to be included due to its topical relevance, and how there's so much overlap and shared experience. I'm not that much of a big fan of LGBT+, but I feel it's important to be consistent.