The diversity of being bi

Ok, before I say anything, explaining that the bi identity can be and is very diverse, let me make it really clear. You can say you’re bi for any reason what so-ever. 

I think that bi meaning two still makes sense while still including several groups of genders. Bi is not an out-dated backwards version of pan. It holds grounds as its own mga identity, just as any other mga identity.

The bi identity is a lot more complex than people think.
For example, you might think of the two (bi) as two preferred groups to date, be attracted to romantically, or sexually. And it could be that you think that you could only feel attracted to two types of genders at a period in your life. It can also be that through your life you’ve found yourself more attracted over all to people of two gendered groups. Or it could refer to you finding yourself being attracted secondarily and primarily to various genders.

And here’s another thing. Non-binary people do have in common that their gender does not align with completely with the binary. And I feel slightly iffy about someone considering themself bi because they view non-binary as one gender. Especially if you’re cis, if you’re non-binary yourself it doesn’t feel iffy. Because it sort of feels like trans fetishism, due to the fact that they’re seeking out trans people as a category, thus you shouldn't specify non-binary as one category unless you are a non-binary person finding safety in this.

Here’s a thing people also seem to forget, a bi trans person can avoid cis people, for safety reasons or because they don’t feel comfortable dating cis people, and they’d still be bi. Cis men and women aren’t genders, being a man or a woman is. To say otherwise is implying that when you date only (binary I guess in this example) trans people, you’re saying that these men and women are not authenticly men and women.

And the last point I’d like to make. Bi as a term has been around for a long time. In fact it was a reclamation for mga people, when psychiatrists attempted to diagnose people that did not fit the category of "homosexual", they had to come up with a new one, for mga people, which is what became known as bisexual. Just because another category is saying “gender isn’t that essential, I include trans and non-binary people in my list of potential partner”, this does not mean that all of a sudden bi doesn’t. If you define your identity in a certain way (in this case in an offensive way), that does not mean that you get to say that the other terms don’t. Being bi has a rich history, and it as a term itself is founded in the harsh reality that mga people face.