"Cis allies"

I’ve concluded that cis people, even those that claim to be supportive.. just never seem to consider that trans people have feelings. I mean, why else would they be so lazy about pronouns, gendered language, and names? They say things like “this is hard for me too”, or talk of how they’re just so used to it. Which clearly indicates they’ve never even considered... maybe there’s a reason why we’re so assertive about them being correct language to refer to us? They seem to have never considered we’re not apathetic about it, that we actually want basic respect. It’s almost as if they’re selectively refusing to sympathise with trans people..? It genuinely feels like this is all just systematic gaslighting to be honest.

I wish supposed “allies” or people that supposedly are supportive, would just stop for a moment and think that maybe a person in a really marginalised group, probably would appreciate a bit basic human respect. Like how is a frickin pronoun so inconvenient? Do these people realise that trans people generally have their entire humanity, personhood, personal autonomy, and lives disregarded by society at large? How is that out-weighed by “But it’s hard getting used to”?? We have to unfortunately get used to that, and a lot more, so please just.. stop..?

(Side note: Not being able to empathise emotionaly, and selectively refusing to sympathise with a specific minority are two different things)